This was actually one of the first pages I wrote but I took some time with it. It is meant to be a compliment to the "Escaping Blackistan" page so enjoy and most importantly, TAKE DETAILED NOTES!
There are several enemies to Black Women effectively achieving their self-actualizing goals. These are the zombies of the Blackistan who try all sorts of mind games and indoctrination tactics to keep you in. DON'T LET THEM EAT YOUR BRAINS! Know how to wade through BS and keep moving. Now here are just a few and I will update it as I see fit.
1. The Race Woman- AKA "Sistah Soldier"; "Nuttin' But A Bruduh";"Baby Mama";"Jill Scott".
These are the great-grand daughters that black Womanism failed who actually believe that their feminine identity is to be sacrificed at the feet of men in hopes of achieving racial betterment. *hock and spit * These women are the sistah soldiers who are always bailing some no-good out of jail, publicly coming to his defense when he commits crimes, and "supports" him by providing him with free room and board, free food, free sex and relationship without lasting commitment. They actually believe the garbage about "The Man" keeping them down and speak on behalf of other black women, saying what we should and should not do if we are really black women. They never think about the fact that these men won't be there for their many children and don't care. As long as she can get her a piece of man, she'll even tolerate a concubine status.
They are highly race-identified and are the types who actively hate it when black men decide to pursue interracial romances. Whenever a forward thinking, upwardly mobile sister dares to criticize her black male god, she quickly rushes to the nearest phone booth, switches into her cape and transforms into "Supah Bruthah Luvah", desperately smashing down anyone who would attack her precious and innocent idol. They have been taught and believe that in order for the black race to rise above the horrible predicaments they have historically found themselves in, then the black woman must know that her place is under the black man, and that black women must be understanding of the poor, poor black man's plight in this life and not give him a hard time by pestering him with things like wanting marriage, protection for their children, monogamy and financial security. Ain't she a winner? *rolls eyes*
*What she will do to you:
Due to the fact these women hate their own selves so much, they, naturally, hate other black women and loathe the idea of some other woman who isn't sistah soldiering achieving a greater sense of happiness and fulfillment. When she sees that you are living well and have a happy and fulfilled relationship with your partner, she is reminded of her own misery. She will try to do one or more of several things:
1. Attack your ethnic pride-
"You think/talk/act like you white! Don't you know you black?"
2.Attack your personal strength-
"You just ain't strong enough to stand by a bruthah until he can rise up and make something of himself!"
3. Flat out bully you-
"You don't know how to do your hair/make-up/clothes"
4. Attack your desire for financial security and high standards in general-
"You just a gold-digger. I know how to let a man be the man even though he ain't got no job!"
*How to deal with her:
First off, pity her. This woman has drank all of Blackistan's woman-hating, deadbeat fostering kool-aid and is unfortunately stuck in a cycle that continues to demand the most of her while giving her nothing in return. She actually believes that the only worth she can achieve as a woman is by molding herself into the perverted fantasy of the males who created the standard. It's natural for her to be mad and angry and jealous when she sees that you have done none of that and have achieved. There really is no reason to engage her unless she is attempting to speak on behalf of all black women as many of these types often do.
2. The "Crucified" Male- "The Thug"; "Gangsta";"Con/Ex-Con";"The Playa";"DBR";"A Rapper"
This poor soul is so wrapped up in his own self-pity that he actually believes himself to be some sort of saintly Christ-figure. He has sucked on the juicy boobie of victim hood and, lawd help'im, he ain't lettin' go. This type of male has a persecution complex. He believes that every white male and black woman is out to get him. The "Man" (meaning the collective of white males) has created a system that keeps him locked in a perpetual state of loserdom that forces him to do things like, steal from innocent people, sell drugs, do drugs, kill, rape women, and live off of welfare and/or black women in order to simply survive. He thinks that education is lame, that government assistance is free money and that jail is simply rent-free accommodations, which is why he frequents them so often. Any children he has are merely bragging rights and to him, child support and marriage aren't ensuring that he provides loving and adequate comfort and involvement for his children, but rather just one more way that The Man and black women have conspired to get their hands on his precious money (Though any money he has he probably got from them in the first place).
Frustrated, he has begun to notice that in spite of being many decades removed from Jim Cow and Civil Rights, it is still the white male ( and increasingly Asian males ) who is kicking butt and taking names, and he wonders why he is still constantly rubbing his butt and repeating his name. Ah, yes. It must be the black woman's fault. Of course it can't be his as he is the Great Black Male, with the ding-a-ling so vast in girth and so resplendent with personality that women all over the world weep at merely the sight of it's great bulge. How dare those evil black women criticize the violent behavior and underachievement of these men. Why, don't you heffers know about that magnanimous bastion of poetic inspiration between his thunderous thighs? Don't you know what it has been through? It has feelings too,you heartless harpies, you!
*What he will do to you:
These man-children actually believe that a woman's place is under him. They will bash a woman over the head with the Bible and demand her submission, even though they don't actually follow the book when it comes to things like, oh I don't know, taking care of their children,(1 Timothy 5:8) working by the sweat of their brow (2 Thessalonians 3:10) and oh, yeah, SAVING SEX FOR MARRIAGE. (Hebrews 13:4; 1 Corinthians 6:18;1 Corinthians 7:2;1 Thessalonians 4:4 and plenty more) They truly feel that the whole world is against them and instead of looking inward they look outward for anyone else to blame. Don't expect them to take responsibility for anything because these crybabies don't even own up to their own farts. He will attack in several ways:
1. Attack your ethnic pride
"You just think you too good for a nigga. Don't you know you black?"
2. Attack your high standards
"You need to check your ego. Black womens ain't all that!."
3. Blame black women for all of his shortcomings:
"If a black woman would just submit, I would never had stole/sold drugs/killed people/dropped out of high school/ran from the cops/been born."
4. Attack your self esteem
"Black women are fat/loud/ugly/ and nobody wants to be with you!"
5. Make a Youtube video demonizing Black Women
*How to deal with him
Unfortunately, these types of men view mediocrity and crime as their birthright. Due to the fact they associate low-lifery with their black identity, any criticism of their bad behavior will be seen as racist. He will continue to be a criminal, and do all sorts of crime in the same neighborhoods where his family eats and sleeps. Don't expect much out of him, because if you do, he'll get his feelings all hurt and probably go cap somebody in protest so its in the interest of public safety to stay away from him. Here also are a few step-by-step pointers to aid your high-tailing it from this jerk:
1. If you are approached, walk away from these men. If they are running their mouths simply state that you reuse to play a part in their stupidity and move on.
2. Pay attention to how they dress. If he is wearing typical thug fashions run like a bat out a hell. Choosing to identify with what has clearly come to mean gang violence, misogyny and crime is a good indicator of where he stands.
3. If he goes off at the mouth as these types will do, remind him that you have no obligation to race loyalty and that black men and women neither belong to one another or owe each other anything but common courtesy.
4. If you have such members as this in your family, DO NOT, I repeat and plead, DO NOT soldier for them. Do not bail them out of jail, do not fight their battles. They have their own minds and if they get into trouble it is their own faults. Not your job to help and not your problem. Do you have any IDEA how many black women have lost their families and freedoms over this? Case and point-YOU MUST WATCH THIS VIDEO!
3. The "Homie-Sexual"- AKA "The Silent Minority"
This is the so-called "good black man" who may or may not be well employed but at least has a job, doesn't have a prison record and might not necessarily exhibit typical no-good-male behavior...outwardly, that is. Oh, sure he might even drive a nice car, live in the 'burbs and even be married. But secretly, he harbors some very strange feelings that he just doesn't know how to deal with inside. While his wife/GF is asleep, he'll tiptoe downstairs and sit at his laptop and after watching over his shoulder to make sure no one is looking, he will find himself searching certain sites to entertain his dirty viewing pleasure. He silently squeals with delight as the object of his affection dances across his screen and delights his eyes. There, with tears burning his eyes, he sees the thing he holds dear more than either his woman, his children or the integrity of his legacy: another black man. Oh, how he cries when he see's them carted off in hand cuffs after they have been arrested. "Oh curse thee, wicked white man!", he screams as he falls to his knees and beats his heart, "Thou hast enslaved one of my brothers yet again. Waha-boo-hoo-hooie!" *throws wrist over forehead and faints* I have coined this man The "Homie"-Sexual.
Due to the fact that this sensitive soul sees views DBR men as valid members of the black male collective, he feels it is his sworn duty to defend their honor more so than that of black women and children. He's decided that he is gonna hold down and just love the heck out of all of his brothers, thugs or not. Forget the fact that these no-good thugs are the SAME EXACT FOOLS who make his life as a black man even harder by running in a desperate race to fulfill every stereotype that has ever plagued black males but he doesn't care. As long as his brothers have his back(side), he has theirs. This is the type of male who, while not perpetuating the common behaviors and stereotypes of DBR men, will still identify with them anyway out of a perverted sense of solidarity. Because his head is so wrapped around the idea of black male solidarity, he refuses to call out enemies in his own ranks. He is the one who will criticize black women's poor choices yet say nothing to black males who do the same, let alone actually take them to task on their bad behavior. In short, he views brotherhood as merely looking over the very bad behavior that will weigh them all down, as opposed to keeping one another accountable.
*What he will do to you
Anytime you attempt to voice your disappointment in many of the behaviors and thought patterns that one too many DBR's exhibit, he too will come flying in to their defense. The sad, sad part about all of this is that this isn't brotherhood.These same men ignore the fact that every single day in America, a black man kills another, leaving his family without another man to protect them. Everyday in America, a black man abandons his family and leaves women and children to fend for themselves. And everyday in America, every Homie-Sexual allows these men to represent them by co-signing this foolishness. All just to have a piece of that thug action. He will attack in several ways:
1. Attack you for speaking against males who make poor choices
"Well you don't know what he's been through. Maybe he had a hard life."
2. Openly agree with misogynist statements and sentiments
"Well, I think (insert black woman hater name here) was right and you black women just don't want to hear it."
3. Associate himself with DBR men
"Well, I don't judge anybody. I try to help a brother out."
*How to deal with him.
Again, just don't. These males are best just put on ignore. You can't reason with them and their strange love affair. Just like a lot of knuckle-headed race women, it's thug-lovin' or nothing for these cheerleaders. And of course a thug will just take it all in stride and suck the life out of this poor loser too. When he's done with him, he'll just slip away before morning like he always does while his bruthah man is left eagerly waiting by the phone, hoping he'll call.
*And as an added disclaimer, I am in no way making fun of Gay men as Gay men have been equal victims to this stupidity. Rather I am referring to the effeminate/quasi-sexual nature of "Homie"-Sexuality. In other words -they are male race-women.
4. The Poser Patrol-AKA "Wiggers"; "White/Other Ethnicity Swaggers"; "Robbin Thicke"
*sigh* Now every black person has dealt with these walking tragedies before. Now I am sure that some of them really did grow up around a certain class of blacks, *snort*, but for the most part these non-black losers are just wannabees. Now I'm all for people defying predetermined identities of who they should be, thus my hightailing it from Blackistan. But there is also a difference between participating in a social culture and appropriating an ethnic one, or at least what you think is an ethnic one. Basically these folks suffer from some sort of ethnic self-hatred. Maybe they feel that their own cultures ways of classifying people is superficial and they just caved under the pressure of the expectation. Maybe they think that being cool means being black so they try to emulate what they think being black is. Maybe they allowed white guilt to trip them into poser status and now they have got to prove how much they aren't like their ancestors. And how do they do that? By joining the modern minstrel show known as Blackistan!!! Hey! Why not? It's a perfect match, they can all just wallow in their collective ethnic self-hatred together. Sounds like a party, right? *chortles*
Ok. I'm gonna let you all in one of the Black American Collectives' BIGGEST secrets. Ready? Ok. Here it is: WE ALL HATE THESE DARN FREAKS!!! Yes, it's true. Even Ray Ray and all the gang-bangin' thugs can not stand these sorry losers. They will tolerate them to a small extent because, due to their own self-hatred, they crave a certain level of outside validation. That being said, even the most miserable, self-loathing black person can tell that something isn't right about that picture. These bozos will simply say that they have respect for black people and just want to show how much they like them. Oh, well thanks a lot. I really think it's cool how you claim to love me so much by emulating all of the stereotypes that I have to fight everyday, which basically means, you actually believe them. With friends like you, who needs FOX News?
*What they will do to you
Due to their desperate longing for a "Black Card", these wannabees will perpetuate misogyny and dysfunctional mentalities just to show that they are "down". Enter Exhibit A.Robin Thicke(head). This dude actually had the nerve to dis every white male in the country by saying that only some of them are good. Oh really?Well, lemme ask this loser and other self-hating white males who agree with him something. Do these look like uncaring, scary, monstrous, vicious, evil white males to you?"
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| John Brown: Gave his life for Black Poeple's Freedom |
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| William Wilberforce: Championed the Anti-slavery Act of 1833 |
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| William S. Cohen: Secretary of Defense |
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| The Founders of Krochet Kids |
And I could on forever. You see folks, the problem with men like Robin Thicke(head) is that instead of actually loving black people, they love an image or persona and never bother to look past that persona to actually try to see us as real people and not stereotypes or assets to their street cred. Any man who actually had love and self-respect in his heart would never encourage a woman to do anything but find a man who put her well-being and feelings foremost in his heart. He would never enforce hurtful or crippling stereotypes in attempt to cock-block just for a little pat on the head from his buddies. People like this are not actually after your happiness-they are after some sick sort of validation from the people they wish they could be like. Posers will often try to prove their "blackness" by continuing to enforce Blackistan's "rules" and these will often be the types that you will have to defend your choices from as they actually believe that they have authority over your ethnic identity.
*How to deal with them
This idiot will also try to criticize you because you like rock or country music, buy clothes from Abercrombie or Banana Republic and speak standard English. Sisters, you MUST assert that you and you alone are the ONLY authority over your ethnic identity. You MUST make sure that they recognize that they are outsiders who have no business trying to tell anybody who they should be or what they should think in relation to their ethnic identity. They are guests in your house and YOU are the only one with a say. Due to the fact that DBR males have historically given these types of people a great deal of power in Blackistan, they actually believe that they are just as black as you are and therefore have right to an opinion on anything to do with US. You see, any other self-respecting culture of people would never allow this. Try going up to an Italian and using the "G" word as a "term of endearment". Try going up to an Irish person and saying "What's up, my Pikey!" You will quickly discover that they ain't called the fighting Irish for nothing and you will richly deserve the lesson. You see, people with ethnic pride insist on respect and do not appropriate dishonor as an expression of "pride". WASP's, Italians, Irish, Hispanics, East Indians, Asians, etc, are people of self-respect. If you are fortunate enough to get close to these communities, you better be sure that you will recognize and understand that you are a guest in their house and you WILL respect the rules. They don't sell-out for acceptance or actually invite others to disrespect them or their women. They might not say it, but secretly, they are very glad that they aren't like the self-haters in Blackistan and therefore don't allow little minions of outsider wannabees, because they know that posing is just a veiled disrespect.
