BEWARE OF THE BC ZOMBIES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I can hear you asking me, "Jae, what does that mean?" Well, what that means is that the Black Community is filled with the living dead- people who believe that the destructive lifestyles and patterns of thinking that they live by are actually life-sustaining and worthy, even though they are in decay. What makes it zombified is the fact that many, many sad delusional members, nostalgic for days long gone actually believe that it's alive and well, when in reality it died the day they replaced their ancestors hard won dignity and self-help values with a thought system that has made crime, misogyny and mediocrity synonymous with their ethnic identity.
Now instead of a once upwardly mobile, collective of intellectual social movers and shakers, we have Blacklistan, Land of the Black Zombies! Now just a little disclaimer about the term "Blackistan" it IN NO WAY IS MEANT TO REFLECT BADLY ON THE COUNTRIES WHOSE NAMES END IN -STAN, which are filled with many proud, good and productive people. Rather, I was looking up what the suffix "-istan" meant and I found out that it simply means "land" or "land of" and I thought Blackistan sounded a lot prettier than my original name for the Black Community Model which was Blackpeoplelandiaville! lol!- UPDATE- I have discovered that I am not the genius responsible for coin this term. Credit goes to Mrs. Karyn Leghorne Folan, author of "Don't bring Home a White boy".
Now those of us who have escaped know that there are ZOMBIES EVERYWHERE! You know, the ones who try to convince you that it's in your best interest to return and have your brains eaten for the good of the Black Zombie collective? And that is just what will happen if you stay around these toxic people for far too long- you will have your brains eaten!
The first law of community that you must recognize is that sharing ethnicity does not always equal sharing values. It just means sharing ethnicity. For example, many honest and caring white people share an ethnicity with members of the Klan, but do you see them taking up their causes, dressing in white sheets and holding protests to defend them when they go to jail for killing black people, out of some twisted racial loyalty? No. They DISTANCE themselves from that nonsense and that is what any person who actually has ethnic pride does. They don't allow the low-lifes of their ethnicity to speak for them.
Now there are several things that every Black woman needs to do if she is going to escape the BC Zombies. Here is what I suggest:
1.You don't need a black card/street-cred to be proud- Recognize that choosing to not be community-identified does NOT mean being ashamed of your heritage. Look, I ask you honestly to tell me where do you see a good front by members of the Black Community Model actively striving to live up to the standards that their ancestors pre-Civil Rights fought and died for? Where do they carry on the traditions and pass on the culture? Where are they living worthy of the struggle? Now of course there are many of us in the general Black American Collective Population who do, but remember that the Black Community Model is a specific set of ideals and behaviors that certain members of the Black American Collective Population ascribe to. Due to these buffoons' big mouths we're often invalidated for not being being "black enough". If you are truly proud of your roots, the BEST thing that you can do is to distance yourself from those who crap on your heritage and make life harder for you with their foolishness. A Black Card these days is no more than a relic that states that you are licensed to sell-out your ethnic identity for profit. Just cut it up and demonstrate REAL pride in your heritage by opting-out of coonery.
2. Get as far away from inner city areas as possible- Unfortunately, many inner city communities especially operate by a "no-snitching" policy leading to a den of violence that will go unreported. It's also the worse possible place for you if are a woman or a young girl. http://www.rainn.org/get-information/statistics/sexual-assault-victims
3. Don't have children out of wedlock-Now I am an abstinence advocate. I don't think that there is any better way of declaring your self-respect and safeguarding your dignity from predators than to insist on sex only within the confines of marriage. I understand that we live in an age when it is taboo to criticize casual sex and promiscuity but I still suggest giving it a try. If nothing else, there is still no reason to have children outside of wedlock. Children deserve safety, protection and comfort and the stats show that when they are born out of wedlock, especially in the Black Community, they do not adequately receive any of these things and THEY DESERVE THEM! Remember: you are going to be old one day and if your child feels that your poor choices led to them experiencing trauma, guess who's gonna spend their last days in a nursing home with some sadist whipping their butt?
4. Get your education-I don't care if you are a high school drop out with 9 kids working at McDonald's. EVERYBODY can go back. When I first started community college, I had classes with two of the absolute sweetest women I have ever met in my life. Both of them were Black Women who had been through hell and back. Both of them were over 50 years old, calling out answers and doing homework with all the other whippersnappers. Lol! I recommend checking out the local programs available in your area that offer GED programs and college assistance. Try contacting your county or visiting their official website. I LOVE college and I especially love university. It's an experience that no Black woman should miss out on. Our ancestors fought way too hard for us not to take up and enjoy the opportunity to be educated. I love discussing intellectual topics and being on the in-crowd of certain intellectual circles. Not to mention all the charming men that are just so intrigued by us intelligent ladies. I guess we just have that certain, je ne se qua, non?
5. Get your money right- I am very proud to say that I have absolutely no credit card debt. None. In fact, I have never even owned a credit card. I made the decision from a young age that I would not experience that kind of curtailing of my dreams. If I don't' have the cash, I don't buy it and this policy has never failed me. So here is a list of tips to help you get started gaining control of your financial future:
1. Cut up your credit cards. Yes, I know it's hard and if you must, limit yourself to one. Start paying off the card wit the highest interest rate first and keep going. It will get better if you just stick with it.
2. Develop a budget and STICK TO IT NO MATTER WHAT. I recommend this one:
4. Start a side business if you can- whether that's working a second job, selling Mary Kay or offering any unique service you can provide. Use our talents. If you can sing, think about wedding singing. If you have a great voice, narrate audio books. If you can cook, find out the cottage industry laws in your state and cook up some great meals. Remember that our fore mothers knew how to hustle! Not in the dumb gangster sense, but rather, they did what needed to be done. How many of you remember the frozen cup and chip and candy lady selling goodies to the kids in the neighborhood? Embrace your entrepreneurial heritage!
5. Cut off anything and anyone that drains your funds- That means dead beat relatives and no good men who want to live off of you and expect you to take care of them. You work too darn hard for your money to be funding someone elses dream of a suga mama that's gonna put up with all of their BS. Say hey-yell naw to that lifestyle. It is okay to say no to people. Remember this rule: people who are truly good and productive people know how to self-preservate. They don't let others come in and take advantage of them because they recognize that they must remain strong emotionally and financially for those valuable people in their lives who really will need them when the time is right, i.e. your children's education and potential emotional problems that they may face. When you have allowed others to use your heart and your pocket book, you can not expect to be strong and reliable for yourself, let alone someone in real need of aid.
7. Get off of welfare- I know that many people have been duped into believing that welfare was a system that was supposed to help lower class folks get assistance that they need but in reality it has turned into a cyclic nightmare. Here is something I have learned: if you give a person a crutch, they will use a crutch, regardless of whether or not it's needed. If you by any chance happen to be on welfare, start coming up with a plan to get off of it ASAP. Taking assistance when needed, like between a lay off or after the death of a family member is ok and nothing to be ashamed of, but choosing to just live off of welfare for the rest of your life IS A SHAME. What you are basically saying is that you are lazy and unintelligent. If you know those aren't true about yourself then you owe it to yourself and any children you have to get on your feet and be self-supporting. A great way to start is to figure out what can live without. Some suggestions:
1. Stay away from pre-packaged foods. I know that EBT will only allow you to buy certain items but I have found that pre-packaged foods can be pretty pricy. Try getting the store-brand versions if you have to when it comes to rice, beans, and breads.
2. When you get the cash, try shopping at the farmers market for fresh fruits and veggies. You get fresh food hecka cheap when shopping there.
3. If you can get a bike or use public transportation go for it. I used to love the ride the bus when I went to school. Sure you get tons of creepies but you get a ton of interesting people too.
4.Save up as much as you can while you are paying lower rents. One of the things I recommend is to save any and all change in a piggy bank. Save every penny and open it every six-12 months. You will be amazed at how much you save.
5. Coupons! This is especially good when you are officially off. There is this awesome thing called extreme coupouning. You can get a lot of products for very little money. If you have the time, as it will take a while to build up your coupon buying power I really recommend it. Check it out.
And finally.....
BE PREPARED!
Those zombies WILL find you and when they do, you must remember to stand your ground and aim for the brain. They will come at you with lies, guilt trips and every emotional and psychological chain that they can find. Do not blindly accept it as true. Question it and dismiss it as a lie. A zombie is anyone or anything that tries to convince you that what you are doing to improve your life is wrong! Remember that they are not going to go through the pain of poor health, lack of family support, and constant ridicule- YOU WILL and you are the only person who has the power to change your life. No one will do it for you.
Believe nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I have said it, unless it agrees with your own reason and your own common sense. [Buddha]
